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Faith
Friendship
Relationships
I'm Maya and I help women navigate life! Check out the podcast to listen to practical advice, and biblical truths
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There are so many things I’ve learned about friendship in my 29 (almost 30) years of life and I’m so excited to share them with you. First off, if you haven’t listened to the new episode on friendship yet, go do that now! I have four of my closest girl friends on the show and we answered YOUR friendship questions. Here are some takeaways that have really changed the way I view friendship.
Don’t be afraid to be the one asking to hang out. Someone needs to be the first to initiate friendship and after that it will get SO much easier. Going first allows other people to step into an inviting space and if you are searching for close friends, be the one to go first! Ask the girl you met at the coffee shop to lunch, reach out to the friend you met on social media, or be the person to invite someone to group function from work. There are so many ways to initiate friendship, maybe that’s just texting to let them know you thought of them while shopping. Again, so many different ways but if you go first, good things will follow!
If you want deep friendship, you have to make friendship the priority. That means making space to spend time together, even if it’s only for an hour. It also means reaching out consistently to those you want to grow a friendship with.
If you have a crazy schedule (like me) maybe it’s a multitasking hang out. For example, maybe you need to get a workout in, you and your friend can do a workout class together, go for a walk, or do yoga. Two birds with one stone. Maybe she’s leaving for a trip and you go over to her place to help her pack. Be flexible in friendship.
Create moments with your friends by changing up the daily routine! Take a pottery class, ride bikes to the beach at sunset, or go to a winery. Whatever it is you choose to do, make it special and fun! You will be talking about these memories for years to come.
If after some time, you feel like the friendship is not developing, this person is not reciprocating with you, or you two are just not clicking, you have a couple options here. First, you can communicate your concerns with this friend. For example, “Hey, I love spending time with you but I feel like I haven’t heard from you and just want to make sure everything is okay.” This gives your friend a chance to explain why she’s been MIA and let’s her know you are thinking of her.
Let’s say she doesn’t respond well, end the conversation cordially and give her space to think about what you said. If there is still no reciprocation, it might be time to move on. As sad as it is to let friends go at times, it’s important to remember that your friendship is valuable and you want friends who appreciate you as much as you appreciate them.
I hope this helps you evaluate your friendships and gives you a few ideas on how to invest in them! Check out the new episode on friendship (linked below) and share this blog post with a friend.
Stay Savvy and talk soon!
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